Guidance of the Month

"Guidance of the Month" is always an excerpt or a complete example of spiritual guidance I have recently provided. I choose those that have universal application and thus provide insight for us all.

You may access previous Guidance of the Months through the Archives at Diane's Blog.

Q: What is my wife's mistrust of me grounded in?

A: "You must realize that at this time Sandra is in turmoil. You are not the center of the cyclone at all, it only seems so because you are on the receiving end of Sandra's lashing out. Were you someone else the situation would most likely be the same.

Sandra is caught in a time cycle –– she has gone through this before –– her inner feelings do not match the outer image that she has of herself. This is therefore a very challenging cycle for her. She wants to move ahead in her life, but is not willing to look at some of the areas that are holding her back from doing so.

This is always the way when people feel that they "should" be farther along than they really are. This can cause a dichotomy between the inside and outside –– in other words, they are not congruent. In Sandra's case, she chooses to experience this incongruence as a dissonance in her home, and she has chosen to focus upon you as the source.

Nothing that you can say or do at this time will affect her predicament. This is HER shadow self, in other words, trying to get her attention. The difference between you and Sandra at this time is that you are willing to dig deeper; Sandra is not. She is convinced at this point that the problems are all outside her, and therefore has no need to look within.

This is the way with the majority of humans on the planet at this time. It is a tug–of–war between ego and spirit; the ego is still winning, and that is causing tremendous problems for everyone, from the personal to the global level. Therefore, it is not a mistrust of you, but a mistrust of herself that Sandra is only projecting upon you.

All you can do at this time is to remember that this is so whenever you see that mistrust coming up. It is Sandra s beliefs that are hanging her up, regardless of how rational she may sound at times in making her argument against you. It is all smoke and mirrors.

You can only do as you are now doing, which is to look to yourself, and move on with the grace and dignity that you now possess. It will be up to Sandra to make any necessary changes. No one can do this for her, and she would fight you if you tried.

The last thing you can do with someone who believes their problems are on the outside is to turn them around and try to get them to look within. They will only become more convinced that YOU are the problem. Again, this is a cycle, and only Sandra's inner timetable can know when it will end and she will be able to move on."